Lets Talk: do’s & dont’s /// Talking about Depression

Hello My Lovelies,

**By no means am I a Mental Health specialist in any way, I just like to share my opinions and experiences, in the hopes that it will help someone out there**

How are you all doing? I must admit, I’m in one of those moods where I just want to give up on everything, my blog, fitness, my diet …

You know the ones! So I wanted to bring you a little MH post about certain things that some people say when they know you suffer from depression, now don’t get me wrong I know most people mean well, but sometimes these comments come across really insensitive to the person suffering.

I have always been quite an open person when it comes to my depression, I’ll often speak to people about it mainly Jay and a couple of friends.

Talking about it is by far one of the best remedies, although it is hard at times.

I was diagnosed with depression when I was around 14/15 and it has been a real tough ride, but I’m a fighter & I refuse to let it win!

Some days are definitely worse than others, like today, for example, is a pretty bad day and I just don’t want to do anything or speak to anyone, instead, I want to curl up in a ball and cry.

So to make myself feel a little better, I’m sat watching soaps with my parents instead of locking myself in my room.

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Just a quick update, I drafted up this post a couple of days ago, so I’m feeling as motivated as ever to finally smash my diet and fitness and it’s not long until I see Jay for 2 weeks!

TRUST ME: If you ever feel down or alone the best thing to do is surround yourself with family or friends. I just wish Jay was here for me to cuddle up to!

~1~

“You have such a good life, just be grateful” 

I hate this comment so much! I know I’m so lucky to have the life I do and I never throw it in anyone else’s face but that doesn’t mean I’m ungrateful nor does it mean that I can just be ‘happy’ all the time. Anyone can suffer from depression whether you’re a billionaire, movie star or a teen struggling to find a job.

I don’t want this to be an upsetting post, so to brighten it up a little I’ll give some suggestions to what could be said.

“You are so loved, you can get through this”

~2~

“You just have to deal with it”

Now, come one you would wouldn’t say that to someone who had just lost someone or someone who has just failed an exam. No, you wouldn’t! So why would you say it to someone suffering from depression?

“Keep Fighting, you’ve got this”

~3~

“I know how you feel, I was depressed once”

Not all feelings are the same. I know a lot of people do suffer from depression but I bet you that everyone feels it differently.

“I want to understand, tell me how you feel”

~4~

“You’re being selfish”

Feeling depressed is often something that we cant explain. I know for sure I beat myself up about it a lot so there’s no need to kick us down any further.

“What can I do to help you?”

~5~

“What do you even have to be depressed about?”

Depression doesn’t always have to be caused by something specific, it can come along for a number of different reasons. No matter how it came along doesn’t mean its less/more important!

“I will be here to support you through this difficult time. Whatever you need I’m here”

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There are plenty more things that can be said to help us instead of things that may seem a little insensitive. Talking about it is always good and if you offer your love and support to the person suffering it will make it that little bit easier for them to open up and talk to you about everything. 

Just please be careful when you’re talking about sensitive subjects, certain comments/words can be triggering.

If you are suffering, just remember you are not alone.
 
Here are some links that may help you and if you want to talk to me or have any questions, let me know in the comments.

Stay Weird … X

Jamie

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10 Comments

  1. January 15, 2018 / 10:50 am

    Whilst I don’t really have experience of anyone saying these things to me about depression, I have with anxiety and I know how utterly infuriating it can be. I just ignore it when I hear things like this now. It baffles me how uneducated some people still are about mental health – it’s 2018!

    • jamieleedriscoll
      Author
      February 1, 2018 / 12:18 pm

      Exactly! I can’t say that these comments have been directed at me for quite a while but I still hear comments here and there which I think are so disrespectful. If only people spent the same amount of time trying to learn about it than they do talking about it without much knowledge, the world would be a better place xx

  2. January 17, 2018 / 9:27 pm

    ive been feeling similar recently and it can be quite hard to get up and do things you know will make you feel better. but i can totally understand were youre coming from

    • jamieleedriscoll
      Author
      February 1, 2018 / 12:21 pm

      It’s so heartbreaking as well not being able to do the stuff you want to, but you’ve just got to stay strong & push through!

  3. Olivia m
    February 4, 2018 / 5:02 pm

    I’ve been struggling a lot at the moment to but trying to keep myself busy every though I don’t want to has helped I’m glad your feeling better!

  4. February 7, 2018 / 4:21 pm

    This is such a good post Jamie!
    We have been talking quite a lot about depression in my family. one of our very dear friend is suffering from it, and it’s hard to know how to help them.

    A Sparkle Of Grace

  5. March 19, 2018 / 10:47 am

    This needs to be taught in schools!!! If I had a dollar for every time someone said one of the don’ts to be I would be rich!!!

    • jamieleedriscoll
      Author
      March 23, 2018 / 6:14 pm

      Exactly! I think Mental Health Awareness should definitely be taught in schools and I completely agree. A lot of people don’t mean it in a terrible way but unfortunately, it normally comes across pretty bad!

      • May 8, 2018 / 6:55 am

        I was also diagnosed with depression and it is disturbing to think how i use to easily give up on things that once meant everything to me. But when I realised I cannot hide forever in dark corner I started to share my problem with my doctor and my close friends and I came to know there is always second chance for someone who puts extra effort to try hard to make things work.

        Beautifully written.

  6. May 8, 2018 / 6:25 am

    I was diagnosed with depression and it was a my bad experience of how I easily gave up on things that useday to mean everything to me. But as I started to share my problems with my doctor and close friends I realize there is second chance for everyone who puts extra effort to try hard to make thing works once again.

    It is beautifully written.

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