Hello My Lovelies,
**By no means am I a Mental Health specialist in any way, I just like to share my opinions and experiences, in the hopes that it will help someone out there**
How are you all doing? I must admit, I’m in one of those moods where I just want to give up on everything, my blog, fitness, my diet …
You know the ones! So I wanted to bring you a little MH post about certain things that some people say when they know you suffer from depression, now don’t get me wrong I know most people mean well, but sometimes these comments come across really insensitive to the person suffering.
I have always been quite an open person when it comes to my depression, I’ll often speak to people about it mainly Jay and a couple of friends.
Talking about it is by far one of the best remedies, although it is hard at times.
I was diagnosed with depression when I was around 14/15 and it has been a real tough ride, but I’m a fighter & I refuse to let it win!
Some days are definitely worse than others, like today, for example, is a pretty bad day and I just don’t want to do anything or speak to anyone, instead, I want to curl up in a ball and cry.
So to make myself feel a little better, I’m sat watching soaps with my parents instead of locking myself in my room.
Just a quick update, I drafted up this post a couple of days ago, so I’m feeling as motivated as ever to finally smash my diet and fitness and it’s not long until I see Jay for 2 weeks!
TRUST ME: If you ever feel down or alone the best thing to do is surround yourself with family or friends. I just wish Jay was here for me to cuddle up to!
“You have such a good life, just be grateful”
I hate this comment so much! I know I’m so lucky to have the life I do and I never throw it in anyone else’s face but that doesn’t mean I’m ungrateful nor does it mean that I can just be ‘happy’ all the time. Anyone can suffer from depression whether you’re a billionaire, movie star or a teen struggling to find a job.
I don’t want this to be an upsetting post, so to brighten it up a little I’ll give some suggestions to what could be said.
“You are so loved, you can get through this”
“You just have to deal with it”
Now, come one you would wouldn’t say that to someone who had just lost someone or someone who has just failed an exam. No, you wouldn’t! So why would you say it to someone suffering from depression?
“Keep Fighting, you’ve got this”
“I know how you feel, I was depressed once”
Not all feelings are the same. I know a lot of people do suffer from depression but I bet you that everyone feels it differently.
“I want to understand, tell me how you feel”
“You’re being selfish”
Feeling depressed is often something that we cant explain. I know for sure I beat myself up about it a lot so there’s no need to kick us down any further.
“What can I do to help you?”
“What do you even have to be depressed about?”
Depression doesn’t always have to be caused by something specific, it can come along for a number of different reasons. No matter how it came along doesn’t mean its less/more important!
“I will be here to support you through this difficult time. Whatever you need I’m here”
There are plenty more things that can be said to help us instead of things that may seem a little insensitive. Talking about it is always good and if you offer your love and support to the person suffering it will make it that little bit easier for them to open up and talk to you about everything.
Just please be careful when you’re talking about sensitive subjects, certain comments/words can be triggering.
Stay Weird … X