Hello My Lovelies,
I hope you’re all good!
I know theres not been a lot of #MHM posts recently, but unfortunately it can be quite hard to talk so openly about about something that I deal with on a day to day basis. I also hate felling like people are sat behind their computer screens judging me, but I’ve decided I shouldn’t worry what anyone thinks about my history. Im not ashamed of my scars, as it shows that Ive made it through! I would appreciate that no hate/judgemental comments are left on this post, because I would like for this post to help others that are suffering are those who would just like to understand the act of self injury more.
I had a message from an old friend a couple of days back asking whether I was going to do any more self – injury posts, she helped me out with a few ideas and I guess here I am.
There are so many misconceptions surrounding self injury due to the media now days and this doesn’t really get addressed. Which I’m going to talk about because I want to straighten up some of the most popular opinions.
No one wants to talk about it, which I guess I can understand when trying to look at it from someone else’s shoes but I want to put a stop to that! Its nice to know that people are willing to listen and try to understand something so serious, which is affecting a lot more people than you would think.
Someone who self-injures is a danger to others
I myself can’t see the logic behind this statement because self injury is something you do to yourself. Self-injury is generally a private activity and many who practice it are accustomed to turning their anger and frustration inward rather than outward.
Everyone has their reasons for doing it but just because we hurt ourselves doesn’t mean we want to be violent towards others.
There’s nothing I can do to help
This is 100% not true, although I will admit that it can be hard to help someone who’s suffering, especially if they’re not quite ready to let go of their coping mechanism. The best advise I can give to someone who’s worried about a loved one or friend is listen. When we’re ready to open up we will, and we will do our best to let you in but try your best not to be critical.
Anyone who self-injures is an Emo
Come on guys, Really? Does anyone actually believe this anymore?
Just because someone harms themselves does not mean they’re emo. Self-injury is most commonly used as a coping mechanism and is not generalised to one group of individuals.
People who self-injure only cut themselves
This happens to be something that I wasn’t aware of when I self-harmed for the first time but cutting isn’t the only way people hurt themselves. The list is literally endless;
Pinching, picking skin, or biting
Abusing alcohol or drugs
Persistent hair pulling, anywhere on the body
Excessive rubbing to create friction burns and so on …
Self-injury is just attention-seeking
I think this has to be one of the main comments I hear about self-harm, which actually makes me feel quite sick.
Let’s just be real, I don’t live under a rock and I know some people may self-harm for attention, but don’t generalise this to anyone who uses harming as a coping mechanism.
I know there was that ‘cut for Bieber’ trend that went around, which was 100% attention seeking, but this isn’t the case for most people.
If Self-Injury is done for attention, why do we hide the scars?
No one wants to be shouting it from the rooftops, it’s not exactly something we want people to know about.
Anyone who self-injures is crazy and should be locked up
Do you think the same for someone who uses drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism? No, you don’t. So why would you think we’re anymore crazy than someone who would do the above, or any other coping mechanism in fact?
Self-injury is a suicide attempt or failed suicide attempt
No, No, No!
When I first told my friends & family, I made them aware that this was something I did to stop myself from going any further. I do not want to commit suicide and just because someone self-harms, doesn’t mean they do.
Only females self-injure
The statistics show that the majority of people who self-harm is female.
1 in 7 men, isn’t that far from the female statistics, so why is it generalised to just women?