So tonight’s blog post is a little different and a little soppy (So beware, Don’t say I didn’t warn you).
I am going to be brutally honest with you all, this isn’t easy for me to write.
The first thing a lot of people think when they hear ‘I’m in a long distance relationship’ is ‘are they stupid’ or ‘that’s not going to work’. I used to think the same thing, but sometimes in life you never know what’s going to be around the next corner.
In the words of Forrest Gump (one of our favourites) ‘Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get’.
The moment you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with someone is the most amazing feeling. It makes you sick the thought of losing them. Obviously I am fairly young and there will also be people out there who believe that I can’t make this decision at 19, but when you know you know.
I originally saw Jay on Instagram (I know a typical 21st Century, love story). I was friends with some of his friends, yet we’d never met.
After weeks and weeks of putting it off … I finally plucked up the courage to message him because he didn’t seem like a typical teenage lad, he was different and I wanted to get to know him.
After speaking for a few weeks, I invited Jay to a party I was having. He tells me to this day how scared he was to come, he nearly backed out. However my life could be a lot different today if he hadn’t of turned up.
So long story short. That night Jay and I met and it couldn’t have gone better.
He asked me to go on a date with him and of course I said yes!!!
When we first started talking he explained what he was hoping to do with his life and he explained that the job he wanted to do would require him to be away a lot.
I had already started falling for Jay at this point, so there was no way I was ending it before it had even started.
It came the time when Jay had to leave 6 months into our relationship. He was gone for 3 months however there was a long weekend home after the first 7 weeks. This is a long time to be away from your partner and it was a real struggle to get used to.
I will admit my phone has never been stuck to me as much as it was when he was away. I would wait for calls and texts throughout the days. When Jay told me he was planning to Skype me that night i would be in the best mood.
All relationships need work and sacrifices; however all of this seems like double the amount when you can’t have a cuddle when you’re upset and when all you want is to come home and tell them about your day but you can’t because they’re busy.
Jay and I are no longer in this situation. We are able to see each other most weekends now. I believe it can be just as stressful though because we both know what the future holds. More time apart … more memories that aren’t made with each other. Just like all couples we argue, we annoy each other and we get jealous. This is just a part of sharing your life with someone. No matter how hard these situations are you always know that you’re doing it for your best friend, your soul mate. So you can have a life together.
I love Jay more than I could ever explain and I am, and forever will be his biggest fan – #1 Supporter.
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Our relationship, our story and out lives aren’t perfect but it’s ours. I don’t know about him but I am so proud of ours.
It all sounds a little cliché, doesn’t it…
Anyway thank you for reading and I hope you enjoyed it.
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